The Wrybrary

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Wry actively participates in many online discussion groups. Clients are encouraged to lurk (read what others post) and eventually participate by commenting, posting, and discussing with non-monogamous people across the world. We consume and create this subculture together.


Polyamory Discussion Group on Facebook (over 21,000 people)

Open Relationship Discussion Group on Facebook (over 4,000 people)

Poly & Kinky Discussion Group on FetLife (over 48,000 people)

Poly+Mono Relationships on Facebook(over 4,800 people)

MonoPoly Discussion Group on FetLife (over 3,000 people)

Justine’s List (FetLifer Referrals to BDSM-aware & Kink-friendly helping professionals)

Loving Without Boundaries: Blog and Podcast by Kitty Chambliss

Savage Lovecast: Love and Sex Advice from Dan Savage

(books here, for articles scroll down more):

The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures, 2nd Edition

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory

Sperm Wars: Infidelity, Sexual Conflict, and Other Bedroom Battles

Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships

Sex at Dusk: Lifting the Shiny Wrapping from Sex at Dawn

I Need Your Love – Is That True? : How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead

Everything You Know About Sex Is Wrong: The Disinformation Guide to the Extremes of Human Sexuality (and everything in between) (Disinformation Guides)

The Hazards of Being Male: Surviving the Myth of Masculine Privilege

The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire

The Metrosexual Guide To Style: A Handbook For The Modern Man

Guide to Getting It On! A Book About the Wonders of Sex (7th Edition)

Sex Outside the Lines: Authentic Sexuality in a Sexually Dysfunctional Culture

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission

How to Stop Worrying and Start Living: Time Tested Methods for Conquering Worry.


Relationship Anarchy: The short instructional manifesto.

The Mass Exodus of Polyamorous People Towards Relationship Anarchy

Polyamory and couple privilege

Couple privilege: Having it doesn’t necessarily make you an asshole (but it might)